10 New Zealand Honeymoon Tips for LGBT Australians

Well Aussie, it’s been a long time coming. Congratulations. We’re over the moon that your friends, colleagues and family said YES! We know many of you have come to New Zealand in the past to marry, and of course you’re still welcome to, but as a happily legally married lesbian of 9 years myself, I get it. There’s nothing better than having all your family and friends gathered around as you commit to your soulmate. Especially if you’ve been waiting a long time for this. But we hope you’ll still think of us for your honeymoon! We’d love to celebrate with you, and you’ll just love it here! To  help you create the perfect honeymoon, here’s our list of New Zealand honeymoon tips for LGBT Australians.

1. Know your lodging is LGBT friendly.

I’d like to say all lodging in New Zealand is, but unfortunately that is just not the case. However, there are many lodging providers who do want to spoil you, celebrate with you, and pamper you at this important time in your relationship. If you want to cuddle and kiss your sweetheart, then you want people around who will love seeing you do that, and support your right to do so. If you want to stay in LGBT owned lodging, then GayStay is an excellent resource!

New Zealand Gay Honeymoon
Stay with Gary and Robert in their lovely Ribbonwood Country House.

2. Connect with the LGBT Community.

This is a monumental time in your history as a country, and as a couple. There is nothing quite like sharing this enormous milestone with people who have experienced the same struggles to get the same rights and really understand how it feels. Check out some of our LGBT locals who would love to make your honeymoon extra special.

We welcome LGBT travellers
Scotty and Mal want to celebrate with you!

 3. Avoid the crowds and travel off season.

October to mid-December and then from mid-March till end of April are great times to visit. The temperatures can still be mild, accommodation rates are often less, and the crowds haven’t yet arrived, or have departed. Flights are often less too.

Uncrowded New Zealand
Escape the crowds.

4. Focus on only one or two areas to visit and stay.

I know you think we’re small, and we are compared to Aussie, but our roads are winding and slow to drive. This is your honeymoon, not the time to see all of New Zealand in 5 days! We’re so close, you can always pop back to explore other areas another time.

Winding New Zealand Road
Don’t sit behind the wheel of a car all day. (Credit: Sam Mahayni)

5. Choose an area or regions that offer a variety of experiences.

On honeymoon, you want to share different activities together, but you don’t want to spend all day, every day in the car getting there. For example, if you want a blend of gorgeous wines, fresh seafood, local art, and luxury in remote wilderness, then Marlborough with the Marlborough Sounds is a perfect choice.

New Zealand Honeymoon
Marlborough Sounds has it all. (Credit: Rob Suisted)

6. Create space and down time.

Sleep in, lie around, swing in a hammock together. Don’t feel compelled to rush around and see everything just because you’re in a new place. Make time to just be with each other.

New Zealand Lesbian Honeymoon
Alone time together

7. Set your budget.

We have a huge range of accommodations, from moderately priced, self-catering cabins to ultra-luxury lodges. If you can go 5 star all the way – do it! if you can’t, no worries. It’s quite possible to have a spectacular honeymoon in New Zealand without breaking the bank.

Luxury New Zealand LGBT Honeymoon
Soak in luxury at Bay of Many Coves, a gorgeous LGBT friendly 5 star resort

8. Do something Unique.

Sharing a once in a life time experience, or something thrilling and special, creates memories that you’ll treasure forever. So whether it’s a heli-picnic to a remote mountain setting, or sleeping in a luxury glass Purepod under the stars, find that special experience to share together.

New Zealand Honeymoon
Dare to try something different, like Little River PurePod. (Credit: Johneey Hoek)

9. Book Ahead.

Don’t think you can just rent a car, drive, and be spontaneous about accommodation. Your honeymoon is not the time to end up sleeping in the car because you thought New Zealand in February is a good time to wing it! It’s not. Things get booked up here, especially in the summer months, so plan and book ahead.

Lesbian Honeymoon
Suzie and Caroline’s Criffel Peak View B&B, is a wonderful, moderately priced choice.

10. Tailor-make YOUR OWN honeymoon.

If you’re a young millennial couple, then chances are you will want something different than an older couple who has been waiting generations for this moment. Our LGBTQ community is SO diverse! What we each want from a honeymoon differs. Don’t just buy a ‘NZ Honeymoon Itinerary’ off the shelf. Create something special that is a perfect match for who you are as a couple.

We’d be honoured to help you do that. Contact us now.

 

Is New Zealand a Gay Friendly Travel Destination?

I don’t know about you, but when I’m planning a trip anywhere, it’s the first question I ask. Is the destination gay friendly? Will we be welcome there? It’s also the question I always get from LGBTQ travellers considering a trip to New Zealand. “Is New Zealand a gay friendly travel destination?”

Absolutely, I tell them! We’ve met almost all the LGBTQ milestones in New Zealand, making it a great place for LGBTQ people to live. Rather than just give my opinion, I interviewed several of our friends in the LGBT community, getting their thoughts about life in New Zealand for LGBTQ people.

Scotty and Mal

New Zealand gay heroes
Scotty & Mal

Scotty and Mal are two our our LGBTQ Heroes! They’ve been part of the fight for LGBTQ rights from the start. They own and run S&M’s Cocktail and Lounge Bar in Wellington.

Mals recalls that during the fight to decriminalise homosexual activity 30 years ago, the so-called Christians were chanting, “Kick them back to the gutters and sewers where they came from.” Sadly, it’s the same hate we’re seeing raise it’s head again now in Australia with the marriage equality vote. In New Zealand, the “Normal Joe Blogs on the street were horrified that these people were meant to be Christians and were saying those things about us. It helped our cause. Society has moved on and the ‘old watch’ is slowly dying out. Society has become so progressive. New Zealanders think that as long as you don’t upset me or hurt me, then you’re fine.”

Read more of Scotty and Mal‘s fight for LGBTQ rights in New Zealand.

Tom & Brian

Tom and Brian, who think New Zealand is very gay friendly.
Tom & Brian

Brian is an old swimming buddy of mine and he and his partner Tom live in an Auckland suburb noted for its artists, writers and musicians. “New Zealand is so gay friendly,” Brian notes, “that we forget that it’s not the norm everywhere.” He recounts, “A nice example of how we are treated, goes like this: We are regulars at a busy restaurant and bar up in the village and most of the staff, including management, know us well and will always spend time with us. I was waiting in the bar one evening for Tom to arrive and was chatting to one of the barmen. Even though he knows and uses our names, he casually but loudly called out from across the other side of the bar, “Where’s hubby?” In that simple question for all to hear, and without intending to, he showed respect, made me feel equal and put a big smile on my face. For him, it was just a perfectly normal question to ask. And, yes, he’s very straight :)”

Caroline and Suzie

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Caroline & Suzie

Caroline and Suzie own and manage Criffel Peak, a lovely B&B in Wanaka, a small South Island town of around 9,000 residents. “Kiwis are very laid back. They judge you on your personality and if you don’t moan, but get stuck in and contribute.” Suzie says when locals learn she has a wife not a husband, they typically respond with, “Oh right, that’s lovely.” She was particularly touched after she and Caroline married in 2014. “Many of the husbands of the women I golf with made a point of congratulating me the next time they saw me. It was so lovely! And the local B&B owners group we belong to were so excited to throw us a ‘Hen’s night’ before our wedding, with a chauffeur, gifts, drinks and food, just as any couple would receive.”

Read more about Suzie and Caroline and why Wanaka is a must visit destination if you love the mountains, hiking, and stunning scenery. 

Nicky and Lisa

Lesbian owned bike tour operator, Wheelie Fantastic
Nicky & Lisa

Nicky and Lisa are originally from Northern Ireland.  They have relocated to the small village of Mapua, a pocket of paradise at the top of the South Island. Their business, Wheelie Fantastic, is the result of their mutual passion for cycling. I asked them what it was like here for them moving here. “New Zealand is gay friendly! You will be welcomed into Aotearoa with a genuine warm reception no matter where you are from and you will be treated with respect and equality regardless of your sexuality.” “Nicky and I have travelled to other parts of the world where we felt it was impossible to act as anything but friends. But here in New Zealand we are proud to live our life as we are and never hide our sexuality. In New Zealand, we have truly found a liberal minded country and we are now proudly Kiwis. We are proud to be lesbian kiwis. Just make sure you are an All Blacks supporter (That’s our national rugby team). That’s all Kiwis really want to know about you. Whether you’re LGBTQ or not they don’t care, but just shout loudly for the ALL Blacks.”

Read why Nicky and Lisa moved to New Zealand and how they can create a cycling trip just right for you!

Pete & Steve

gay traveller paradise
Steve & Pete

Pete and Steve own and operate Ratanui Lodge, in rural Golden Bay at the top of the South Island. Steve, American born, is now a New Zealand citizen. “New Zealanders in general are less concerned about who you love than how you interact with the community as a human being. New Zealand is a remote destination with a small population…there is still an ‘end of road’ feel where everyone relies on each other and depends on each other. The conservative Churches that preach separation don’t have a strong influence in New Zealand culture. New Zealand offers a different experience than say Fire Island, Key West, or Mykonos.  It’s not a huge party/nightlife scene.  It’s an opportunity to see the most beautiful country in the world, with a stunning variety of scenery, in a safe, welcoming environment.

Read why Golden Bay is a great destination for the gay travellers who seeks to get off the beaten path. 

Mark

Gay Friendly Wanaka High Country
Mark

OK, so Mark’s not gay, but I wanted to include the voice of a typical straight Kiwi bloke who grew up on a sheep farm in the South Island. He is doggedly passionate about his region, Wanaka, and his desire to earn our business and take care of our LGBTQ guests has blown me away. Mark owns Ridgeline Adventures, and he’ll take you where no one else goes. Seriously!

Mark didn’t say much, but he didn’t need to. “New Zealand is about nature and and how people connect with it.  Nature never judges.”  Imagine a world where everyone thought this way. New Zealand comes pretty close.

He added, “You’ll find great friends in New Zealanders. We accept everyone with open arms, a big smile and if you’re lucky a hot cuppa and a biscuit!!”

It’s what we all want, right? To know be welcomed with open arms, regardless of who we are.

So where’s your next gaycation?

Try New Zealand. It’s not only stunningly beautiful, it’s an absolutely gay-friendly destination perfect for any LGBTQ traveller seeking something different.  Whether you want to travel in a small group LGBTQ tour, semi-independently, or with a private guide, we’ll take care of you and connect you with our fabulous locals.